For some reason, this title just jumped out at me when I was thinking about what I wanted to write about next. I'm currently sitting at Logan Airport after my flight was delayed a couple times, and Eric Church is playing tonight in Denver-- an artist I've been dying to see perform. And, one of his songs is titled "kill a word." This could be why it jumped out. Could be. Anyway, the past couple days, my brother and I were talking about sales for Darwin (link here), getting rejected from some job applications I had sent out to a couple start-ups, and just about life in general. One of the things that keeps coming up in each category is this funny idea of why are we so afraid of the word "no?" Or, why are we afraid of rejection in general?
My mom always said to me when I was younger, "You will never know until you ask." And, it has stuck with me over the years. Especially because we, as a collective, are so afraid to ask for things because we're afraid that we'll be rejected or told no. We're scared to ask that person on a date, ask for a sale, ask for that promotion that you've earned, ask about the next steps to move forward in an interview. There are so many things that we should be asking for, or about, and we don't.
I catch myself when I know that I have to send that email, but don't because I know there's a possibility of rejection. Or, shooting a text about Darwin to just talk and catch up with an old friend about what I'm doing and see how they are. I laugh about it right now because realistically, what am I afraid of? What is there really to lose. Confidence? Self-esteem? Ego? Sounds a little silly, right?
As my first 100 Day challenge comes to a close, which I will touch on later this week, I think my next challenge that I want to add onto my foundation is to remove my fear of rejection and the word no. I don't want to look back in a month, in a year, in 10 years, and think "why didn't I just do X?"
I've been thinking of what I wanted to do next, and I'm so excited to have found my next 100 day challenge. So, some of you will be hearing from me very soon, and I can't wait to catch up. Maktub.